The Lies We Tell Ourselves


It is so much easier to play a part than to be yourself.

It is so much easier to focus on getting another certification, more followers on Instagram or writing another bullshit blog post that you hope will get you traffic to your website.

Because deep down you don't want the attention for your true gifts.

You tell the world you can design anything, even though you secretly hate designing southwest anything.

You tell the world that you can work with anyone, even though you can spot an asshole from a mile away.

You tell the world that you have zero fucks to give, but inside you're in pain because you actually do give fucks but the world can never know your inner tenderness.

You are devoutly and deeply devoted to your beliefs that you grew up with even though the voice inside is telling you that you can shit can a few of them. 

You want to play a bigger role, but you're unsure how to shed the constraints you've put on yourself because they have always made you feel safe.

You want someone else to figure out how you should do things in your life because that voice inside you sometimes hear? Well, that fucker is plain old crazy and it can't possibly know what is right for you.

And so you sit there as the years zoom by and you start to get pissed off. This is not how you envisioned your life.

You figured your life would be way better than that cheerleader from high school. Sure, you don't weigh two tons, but you're no better when you're still drowning your sorrows in wine or food.

You did what the masses said you should do. You listened to them in their "infinite" wisdom and here you are. Pissed off and living a life of mediocrity. 

At this point, what does it matter? You could absolutely say fuck it. Give up the dream. Ignore the voice inside that nags. Go back and live the life of mediocrity that has you in a fluctuating state of anxiety and depression.

Or you take the time to listen to the voice within that has been trying to tell you for years now that if you don't get clear on what you really want and decide that you will show up authentically for a change, you're gonna be regret it.

We've heard all the saying before about being yourself because everyone else is taken. And we hear it, but we think we're totally being authentic. 

But when you look at the stuff you're complaining about, you're not. 

You are attracting the shit into your life you don't want. Because you think that will make you money or that's just the way life is. And your business becomes a grind. And you eventually find yourself wondering why it's all so hard and not making you the money you know you are meant to earn.

It's because you're out of alignment with your soul. Your soul didn't ask for this. "They" said this was the way to go, but what do "they" know about your soul?

Jack shit. 

Get in alignment with your soul. Stop ignoring the signs. Stop thinking that your life has to be played out in a certain way.

You have free will. Now you just need to choose to use it.

Alycia Wicker

Alycia Wicker is an interior design business coach specializing in helping soulful interior designers attract clients with clever marketing strategies. Celebrity gossip whore.