Everyone on this planet holds on to at least one negative belief in their life. Most of us hold on to more than one.
Maybe we picked one up in childhood. Got a few more during our teen years. Added on a couple more in our 20s and we're a complete bumblefuck mess of negativity.
I've been holding onto negative beliefs about myself like they were going to be fucking collector beanie babies. Yes! I have "Violet Valueless"! She's my favorite! I'll trade her for your "Wussy Wendell".
Some of us have more issues than the entire lifespan of Domino magazine
Here's the thing when we hold on to these negative beliefs they really keep us trapped. Trapped in a bunch of fucking muck. Muck that keeps us from reaching those goals that seem elusive and only reserved for those who seemingly have everything.
The hardest part is to tear down a house built on a shitty foundation
It's a lot easier to ramble around in a shack and deal with the occasional roof leak or the wallpaper peeling off the walls.
I've been on a journey for my entire life, like you. Looking for the answers to help me get to the next level, to make more money, to make lifelong friends, to be a better person, to feel like it is okay to treat myself, to live in the now instead of the past, to feel okay with who I am.
While I know I've let part of my soul go on display to the world, I've kept big pieces of it bottled up and that's when I've hit the road block.
That road block, what I've been referring to the boulder in the road, is my life challenge. We all have one that comes up time and again because dealing with it right now seems like such a drain. The bitch of it is that is doesn't go away. It's like a Kardashian you can never get away from.
How to bitch-slap your negative beliefs
Acknowledge the elephant in the room. Get a pen + paper and write down the shit that you believe about yourself that's negative. Indulge it for a brief moment by pulling all the muck that is attached to it, get it out of your head and onto paper.
Don't hold back a single thing. You're making a list of all the shit you think is wrong with you. Then apologize to yourself for believing that shit you (or someone else) told you to believe.
Then the next step is really important.
Burn that motherfucker
Burn that list up. It doesn't help you. It doesn't let you go further in your life. It's muck that you don't need ever again.
Now I want you to focus on all the positive things you bring into this world. Your creativity. Your wit. Your smile. Your heart. The good stuff that deserves more attention in your life. Focus on your gifts, how you can do more stuff that makes you feel good and how you can help others in the world as you only can. Will ya do that for yourself? I hope you do.
Alycia Wicker is a business coach for creative entrepreneurs. Her clients land more of their own dream clients and make more cash, period. Celebrity gossip whore. Elvis-obsessed.